Oct. 11 is National Coming Out Day

For LGBTQ+2S people, coming out can be a scary thought.

We often are not sure what the effects of coming out will be. Sometimes, it doesn’t feel safe for us to live as our authentic selves. What will our school think? Our friends? Our job? Will we be treated differently? We ask ourselves these questions every time we have to come out (and we often have to come out many times, to many different people, in many different settings). It can be exhausting.

On top of all these thoughts, we are often faced with the question, “How do I come out?”

The Trevor Project has created something called Coming Out: A Handbook for LGBTQ Young People, a great resource for anybody who is contemplating how to come out, what to do, or what it means. While the guide is focused on younger people, the concepts can be applied at any age. Some strategies mentioned include planning ahead and “testing the waters” (such as asking someone how they feel about marriage equality). Most importantly, ensuring that you are safe when coming out is crucial. When you are thinking of coming out, seek support (through a therapist, a supportive friend, or a local LGBTQ+2S organization). Having support from others helps relieve the risk of negative mental health outcomes.

Coming out is a life-changing experience, and living as your authentic self is a freeing experience. But it’s important to remember that coming out is your story and your choice. It should always be your choice.

On National Coming Out Day, whether you are already out, thinking about coming out, or not quite ready, know that there is a community of people who love and support you for who you are. And always take care of yourself.

Check out these resources:

• Coming Out: A Handbook for LGBTQ Young People
• Tips for Coming Out (And Inviting In) – Stony Brook Medicine Health News